Misunderstandings of undeliberate hurt

Sometimes we dont know how others are going to react to what we say, do or confer.

It can be easy to jump into conclusion and believe that others might mean deliberate harm upon us when we react with hurt to something that have been said or done, maybe even neglected. 

When having the mindset that anything that causes us hurt, no matter how trivial or inconsequential. As if it was a planned strike from the person we feel wronged by, we allow little room around ourself, and it can force others to feel as if they have to be incredibly careful around us. 

We cannot calculate the reactions and inner dealings of those around us at all times, and be hyper vigilant never to cause any upsets, because it diminishes the natural flow of expression. 

If newry everything someone close to you says or does causes an inner version, a negative reaction, the solution doesnt lie in expecting him/her to constantly be alert. 

To use constant foresight and consider every possible outcome of words or actions is a tiring expectation to place upon someone. 

Maybe the solution lies in recognizing that there is innocence and that others do not mean harm.

Sometimes just being ourself does cause strife and conflict, but that does not mean there is ill intent behind every frivolous and un-filtered move. 

It is difficult to have a clear look of how the future might unfold, and how our actions influence and affect others. When stuck in lanes of projection that others willfully cause deliberate hurt behind every vague and indistinct action, it is easy to become scornful and lash out words of retalliation by the percieved slight.

Easy to be filled with anger and resentment when we allow ourself succumb to rash conclusions about the motives of others. Sometimes we simply have no idea of the ramifications and minor upsets we have caused, but when we do have ill intent, we remember it as shameful.

The road to forgiveness is also paved with letting go of assumptions and overlaying our own image of the situation and seeing it as faultless truth with no opportunity for others to object. 

Sometimes words such as I didnt mean to hurt you, or I didnt know it would affect you this much, are actually true. Despite the fixed opinion that there must have been malignant intent behind the spur of the actions. 

If we knew how our being would affect all things at all times, whether it be met with applauding recognition or cheeks turning, no one would dare to do anything or day anything.

Living in fear of how it was percieved and processed.
Sooner or later the skeletal remains of unlived possibilities will be found, due to the propensity to always remain within the book. The sight of an abandonned castle, where the action had already taken place milleniums ago, the time spent devising how to appropriately dress and look, instead of actually being there. 

Learn to let go of your own supposed knowing of the inner workings of others and what goes on inside their mind, and simply be honest and ask direct question instead.

Be the inquirer of open communication if left in doubt, but do not jump to conclusions so readily. Sometimes we actually do not know. And misunderstandings do occur in the vein of open and secret hurts, but when we know that it may not always be intentional, we also are quicker to move on.